Thursday, 25 August 2016

Gambaran Tentang Tindakan Yang Berhikmah

Kalau kereta accident, kemek sana-sini, maka nak baik pulih dia, kena ketuk body kuat-kuat. Kalau setakat gosok dengan kertas tisu, habis seratus kotak tisu pun tak ke mana. Ketika ini, ketuk itulah dikira cara yang paling berhikmah untuk nak baiki kereta tu.

Kalau satu anggota badan contohnya kaki pesakit diabetis dah buruk serta sel-selnya sudah mati, tidak berfungsi lagi, menyimpannya akan merbahayakan nyawa tuannya, maka ketika itu keputusannya ada perlu dipotong. Setakat kita sapu dengan losyen, ianya tidak bermakna lagi. Ketika ini, potong adalah cara yang paling berhikmah untuk mengubati masalah ini.

Seorang anak yang telah berusia 11 tahun, telah pelbagai cara nasihat dan suruhan dengan cara yang baik dilakukan supaya dia sembahyang tetapi tetap tak berjaya. Maka ketika itu Islam mengizinkan supaya dia dipukul. Maka ketika itu, pukul adalah cara yang paling berhikmah untuk mendidiknya.

Kalau ada orang yang susah nak makan nasihat, macam-macam cara tetap tak berkesan tetapi bila sekali kita kata “Kamu ni bodoh!” menyebabkan dia mula berfikir, ketika ungkapan “kamu ni bodoh!” adalah cara yang berhikmah.

Kalau sekiranya jalan dakwah Islam ini dihalang dengan kekerasan dan kekuatan, untuk membersihkannya kita perlu mengangkat senjata untuk menentang musuh, maka ketika itu mengangkat senjata adalah cara yang paling berhikmah.

Kalau sekiranya masyarakat seperti orang asli, mereka perlu diberikan hadiah dan dijamu dengan makanan, barulah mereka bersedia untuk mendengar dakwah kita, maka ketika itu, memberi hadiah dan mengadakan jamuan adalah cara yang berhikmah.

Kalau sekiranya pemerintah yang sudah ditegur dan dinasihati, tiada perubahan dan penambahbaikan dilakukan malah keadaan semakin hari semakin parah, mereka perlu diturunkan. Ketika itu tindakan menurunkan mereka dari puncak kuasa adalah cara yang berhikmah.

Kalau seseorang baling kita dengan tahi, kita balas baling balik dia dengan bunga tetapi balingan bunga kita tidak membawa sebarang erti dan makna, maka baling dengan bunga bukanlah cara yang berhikmah. Orang ini hanya akan berfikir apabila dia juga kena tahi, maka ketika itu balingan dengan tahi adalah cara yang berhikmah.

Saya reka senario-senario di atas untuk menerangkan salah faham yang sering berlaku berkaitan dengan kalimah ‘hikmah’. Ramai orang ingat hikmah itu bererti lemah lembut, kena belai, kena gosok, kena bagi bunga, tak boleh balas kejahatan orang kepada kita, kena pujuk dan pelbagai lagi.

Semua salah faham ini banyak saya perhatikan dalam komen-komen fb sebelum ini. Hikmah bermakna apakah cara dan kaedah yang paling balik dan berkesan pada waktu itu, ketika itu dan untuk yang dituju itu.

Sumber :

How pandas survive on their bamboo-only diet

Roughing it. Pandas have found a way to survive on only bamboo.

Pandas are one of the world’s most fascinating vegetarians. Their digestive systems evolved to process meat, yet they eat nothing but bamboo—all day, every day. A new study reveals how these animals survive on a diet that should kill them.

Giant pandas (Ailuropoda melanoleuca) are a type of bear, and they still retain a meat eater’s digestive system, with a simple stomach and a short small intestine. They don’t have a four-chambered stomach like a cow to digest plants efficiently, and a pure bamboo diet contains hardly any protein and a lot of indigestible fiber.

To understand how pandas subsist on such a diet, researchers radio-collared three male and three female pandas in the Qinling Mountains of China and observed what they ate in their natural habitats for 6 years. The team also analyzed the panda diet in depth by measuring the amounts of nitrogen, phosphorous, and calcium—the three most essential nutrients for mammals—in the plants they ate.

“There is strong evidence that animals try to forage as effectively as possible to meet their nutritional needs, mixing dietary items to provide a full complement of nutrients,” writes primatologist Jessica Rothman of the City University Of New York’s Hunter College, who was not involved in the study, in an e-mail. “In areas with only one edible plant, animals may try to consume different parts of the same food.”

That’s exactly what the pandas seem to be doing. The two bamboo species in Qinling, wood bamboo and arrow bamboo, grow at different elevations and sprout new shoots and leaves at different times of the year. The tracking collars revealed that during mating season in the spring, pandas fed on young wood bamboo shoots, which are rich in nitrogen and phosphorous. In June, the wood bamboo shoots had matured and contained fewer nutrients, so pandas migrated to higher elevations and started eating young arrow bamboo shoots.

However, both species’ shoots had low calcium levels, which pushed pandas toward the next dietary shift in mid-July: young arrow bamboo leaves, which are rich in calcium.

This dietary juggling act appears to affect panda reproduction, the team reports online this month in Functional Ecology. Although the animals mate in the spring, they undergo “delayed implantation”—the embryo remains in a state of arrested development in the mother’s uterus until it attaches and resumes growth. The authors speculate that panda embryos continue development only after there is sufficient calcium in the diet.

In August, females return to the lower elevations and deliver tiny, pink panda babies. The adult mothers start eating young wood bamboo leaves, which have sufficient nutrients, including the calcium necessary for lactation. Pandas have the shortest gestation period among bears, about 2 to 3 months compared with 6 months in other species. They also have the smallest offspring—newborns weigh just 90 to 130 grams, whereas other bear cubs are a more brawny 300 to 400 grams. Their small size could be due to the nutrient limitations of their habitat, the authors say.

But even nutritional juggling may not allow pandas to survive the winter. Wood bamboo leaves age over this season, and their nutrient levels drop, causing high mortality among pandas. In fact, records from Qinling show that among 25 cases of dead or ill pandas over the past 37 years, more than half occurred in March and April, right after the hardships of winter.

The study helps explain how pandas survive on such a limited diet, says wildlife biologist Dajun Wang of Peking University in Beijing, who has worked on pandas in Qinling. But he says the animals may be getting nutrients from other places as well. “I have seen them scavenge from time to time,” he writes in an e-mail. “They may also get calcium and other nutrients from licking rocks.”


People Would Rather Experience An Electric Shock Than Be Alone With Their Thoughts

Hundreds of participants were left in a room by themselves for several minutes with nothing to do but think. Rather than complete the task, many of them chose to administer electric shocks to themselves. As it turns out, most people prefer to do something rather than nothing, even if that something is negative, according to a study published in Science last week.

In a series of 11 experiments, a team led by Timothy Wilson from the University of Virginia asked 409 college students to be alone with their thoughts in a bare room for 6 to 15 minutes: no phones, books, pens for doodling, or distractions of any kind. Just stay awake, be quiet, and sit idly in their seats. Some were given specific prompts, like plan a food outing, while others could think about whatever.

“We went into this thinking it wouldn’t be that hard for people to entertain themselves,” Wilson tells Science. “We have this huge brain and it’s stuffed full of pleasant memories, and we have the ability to construct fantasies and stories.”

But daydreaming may not be as enjoyable when we’re forced to do it on command. Half the volunteers reported on a 9-point scale that the experience was not enjoyable. Most found it difficult to concentrate, and even more said their minds continually wandered, even when nothing was competing for their attention. A group asked to perform the same task at home found the experience even less enjoyable; a third of them reported cheating.

Those assigned an external activity, like listening to music or reading a book, liked that twice as much as “thinking time.” When the team repeated the experiment with people ages 18 to 77 recruited from a farmers’ market and a church, they got similar results. There were some general trends: People who thought about future events with friends or family fared better than those who thought about work.

In one last experiment, 67 percent of the men and 25 percent of the women chose to give themselves a mild electric jolt -- like a little static electricity shock -- rather than complete the entire “thinking period.” Beforehand, when given a sample, most said they’d pay $5 not to be zapped again -- but when the time came, they still pushed the button.

“The mind is designed to engage with the world,” Wilson says in a news release. “Even when we are by ourselves, our focus usually is on the outside world.” The team is working on the exact reasons why people find it difficult to be alone with their own thoughts.

Wilson intends to pursue ways to tame this “disengaged mind.” He often imagines being a castaway on an deserted island as he’s falling asleep. “There are lots of times in our daily lives, when we have a little bit of time out, or are stuck in traffic or trying to get to sleep,” he explains to Nature. “Having this as a tool in our mental toolbox as a way to retreat or reduce stress would be a useful thing to do.”


Lessons in love and unity

By : Chan Cheng Tuan

One of the things I remember about my late father was how he would ensure that on August 31 each year, there would be a Jalur Gemilang flying high in our home in Kuantan, Pahang.

Of course, in those days, my father referred to it simply as the Malaysian flag.

The fact that he did not actually have a flag that he could raise on a pole had never really bothered my father.

Every Merdeka Day, he would peruse the newspaper from the first page to the last, looking for the perfect picture of a Malaysian flag printed in the many patriotic advertisements.

Having found one that he liked, dad would carefully cut out his flag of choice.

He would then dab on some glue to the four corners on the reverse side of his paper cut-out. Gingerly holding it up by the tips of his fingers, dad would then gently paste the paper flag on to the most prominent spot in our living room – the wooden fuse box cover just above the light and fan switches.

And so the Malaysian flag was raised on Merdeka Day in the living room of our modest single-storey terrace house.

None of us ever asked dad why he did it but I am quite sure from previous conversations that I had had with him that he would have been puzzled at the question. I guess to him it was simple – he was proud to be a Malaysian and saw no reason why he should not paste his country’s flag in his living room.

I suppose having survived the Japanese Occupation and the 1969 race riots, dad felt that he had every reason to be thankful that he was living in a peaceful, multi-ethnic nation.

When I was growing up in the police quarters in Kuala Terengganu in the 1970s, my father’s colleagues and our neighbours would throng our wooden government house every Chinese New Year.

This was expected as we were one of perhaps two or three Chinese families living in the police quarters and my dad, who was the CC or chief clerk, was held in high regard.

There would be an endless stream of mostly Malay visitors (funny how we never thought of their race then) from morning till evening and all of them enjoyed the kuih kapit and bahulu my mum made and drank F&N Orange out of glasses that she used only on special occasions.

When my eldest sister got married, my dad hosted a “kenduri” under a makeshift shelter near our house for his office colleagues and he paid the Kaum Ibu group (which later became known as Wanita Umno) to cook the nasi minyak for the occasion.

Almost everyone in the police quarters attended and everyone had a good time despite the midday heat.

Although we were of different races, the ties of friendship were so strong that our immediate neighbour, a Malay family whose children were my playmates, visited us many years later after we had moved to Kuantan.

Somehow, in those days, we respected each other’s racial and religious beliefs without making a big fuss out of it. I don’t recall ever hearing anyone being referred to as a religious fanatic or extremist.

We accepted each other’s differences and embraced our similarities such as our mothers’ fondness for wearing sarong and see-through embroidered kebaya or eating budu (a condiment made of fermented anchovies) with tempoyak or watching P. Ramlee movies.

My best friends were Malays and yes, we argued and fought but most of the time it was over who had cheated in the marbles game or who had the nicer pencil box or who got to cook the rice in the tin can for our masak-masak session.

I don’t recall ever having any arguments because of our racial or religious beliefs despite growing up in a Malay-majority community.

I sometimes think that people in my father’s era chose to celebrate what is important – friendship and camaraderie.

Sadly, today, we seem to be more conscious about our differences than our similarities, a situation made worse by provocative politicians out to score points. At the slightest excuse, we trade racial insults and couldn’t care less about the consequences. Even a fender bender can become a match to light the flames of racism.

Where did we go wrong? How did we get from eating in each other’s homes without inhibition to shunning each other because the colour of our skin is different?

As we raise the flag and wave it with pride this Merdeka Day, I think we need to realise that what is even more crucial is for us to rediscover our mojo as a nation. Happy Merdeka Day. And thank you, Dad, for teaching me to be a Malaysian. – August 26, 2014.

* Chan Cheng Tuan is deputy production editor at The Malaysian Insider.


Di Antara Mukjizat Rasulullah Dan Karamah Para Solihin

Mukjizat Rasulullah SAW :

1. Terbelah bulan.

2. Batu-batu kecil bertasbih di atas tapak tangan baginda.

3. Pokok datang kepada baginda.

4. Batang kurma menangis di hadapan baginda.

5. Pemberitahuan baginda pada malam mikraj tentang sifat Baitul Maqdis.

6. Pemberitahuan baginda tentang perkara yang telah berlaku dan perkara yang akan berlaku.

7. Penganugerahan baginda dengan kitab yang mulia.

8. Banyak kali makanan dan minuman yang sedikit menjadi banyak, sebagaimana baginda mengenyangkan tentera Islam di dalam peperangan Khandak dengan makanan yang sedikit dan makanan itu tidak berkurangan langsung sebagaimana yang terdapat di dalam hadis Umm as-Salamah yang masyhur.

9. Menghilangkan dahaga tentera Islam di dalam peperangan Khaibar dari suatu bekas air yang sedikit tetapi tidak berkurangan langsung.

10. Memenuhkan bekas-bekas tentera Islam pada hari Tabuk dengan makanan yang pada asalnya dari makanan yang sedikit, tetapi tidak berkurangan, sedangkan jumlah tentera Islam pada masa itu ialah seramai 30,000 orang.

11. Banyak kali air terpancar dari jari jemari baginda, sehingga mencukupi keperluan umat Islam yang bersama dengan baginda SAW, sebagaimana yang berlaku dalam peperangan Hudaibiyyah yang melibatkan dengan jumlah orang Islam antara 1400 hingga 1500 orang.

12. Mengembalikan semula mata Qatadah yang tercabut dan tergantung di atas pipinya ke tempat asalnya dan mata itu berfungsi lebih baik daripada sebelumnya.

13. Menyembuhkan kaki Muhammad bin Maslamah yang patah ketika melakukan misi khas membunuh Ka'ab bin Asyraf.

14. Memberi makan daging bakar kepada 130 orang lelaki. Setiap seorang daripada mereka mendapat satu keping, kemudian baginda SAW menjadikannya dua keping dan para sahabat tadi memakan kesemuanya, tetapi masih lagi ada lebihnya.

15. Menyelesaikan hutang Abdullah iaitu ayah kepada Jabir dengan seorang Yahudi iaitu sebanyak 30 Wasaq. Menurut laporan Jabir, baginda SAW menyuruh orang yang memberi hutang itu mengambil ke semua buah tamar yang ada pada baginda, tetapi orang Yahudi itu enggan menerimanya, lalu Rasulullah SAW berjalan di atas tamar itu. Baginda SAW bersabda kepada Jabir, "Kumpulkanlah buah tamar itu untuknya dan apabila ditimbang jumlah ialah 30 Wasaq dan lebihannya ialah 17 Wasaq. 

Perkara ini sebenarnya begitu banyak berlaku kepada Rasulullah SAW, malah mukjizat hissi yang berlaku kepada baginda hampir-hampir mencecah seribu kes.

Karamah Para Salafussoleh Daripada Sahabat, Tabi'in dan orang-orang selepas mereka dan orang-orang salih :

1. Usaid bin Khudair membaca Surah al-Kahfi, tiba-tiba turun gerombolan awan daripada langit, tidak ubah bagaikan lampu-lampu yang bersinar. Gerombolan awan ini ialah malaikat yang turun kerana mendengar bacaan al-Quran beliau.

2. Malaikat memberi salam kepada Imran bin Husain.

3. Salman al-Farisi dan Abu Darda' pernah makan di dalam satu bekas, tiba-tiba bekas itu bertasbih atau makanan yang yang berada di dalam bekas itu bertasbih.

4. Ubaid bin Bisyr dan Usaid bin Khudair keluar dari majlis Rasulullah SAW pada suatu malam yang gelap gelita, tiba-tiba satu cahaya menyinari perjalanan itu kedua orang sahabat itu dan cahaya itu berpecah setelah dua orang sahabat itu berpecah. Hadis Riwayat al-Bukhari dan lain-lainnya.

5. Kisah as-Siddiq yang terdapat di dalam as-Sahihain ketika beliau menerima tiga orang tetamu, ketika menjamu makanan yang sedikit dan tidak cukup untuk tiga orang. Beliau sendiri tidak makan dalam ertikata yang sebenar, kerana meraikan tetamu beliau itu, tetapi yang hairannya tetamunya semuanya kenyang, bahkan lebih pelik makanan yang dimakan tadi semakin bertambah dari sebelumnya. Abu Bakar dan isterinya melihat makanan tersebut dan mendapat makanan itu lebih banyak dari sebelumnya, lalu beliau membawanya kepada Rasulullah SAW kemudian datang orang ramai dan mereka semua makan makanan tersebut dan masing-masing merasa kenyang.

6. Khubaib bin Adi menjadi tawanan orang-orang Musyrik di Makkah. Semasa di dalam tawanan beliau telah dibawakan buah anggur sedangkan di Makkah tidak terdapat pun buah anggur.

7. Amir bin Fuhairah terbunuh syahid di dalam satu serangan musuh dan apabila musuh cuba menghampiri jenazahnya, mereka tidak mampu berbuat demikian. Ketika beliau dibunuh, sahabat beliau Amir bin al-Tufail melihat bagaimana jenazah Amir bin Fuhairah diangkat ke langit oleh para malaikat.

8. Ketika Umm Aiman[1] keluar berhijah, beliau tidak mempunyai sebarang bekalan mahupun air. Hampir-hampir beliau mati kerana terlalu dahaga. Apabila tiba waktu berbuka dan kebetulan pula pada ketika itu beliau sedang berpuasa, beliau mendengar satu bunyi di atas kepalanya. Apabila menoleh ke arah bunyi tersebut, ada satu timba yang mengandungi air tergantung dan beliau telah meminum air dari timba itu sehingga hilang dahaga dan beliau tidak pernah lagi merasai dahaga sepanjang hidupnya selepas itu.

9. Safinah adalah hamba kepada Rasulullah SAW. Beliau memberitahu kepada seekor singa yang beliau adalah utusan Rasulullah SAW, lalu singa itu berjalan sama dengannya sehingga sampai ke destinasi yang ditujunya.

10. Al-Barra' bin Malik, apabila bersumpah dengan nama Allah, Allah SWT memperkenankan sumpahnya. Apabila peperangan berkecamuk di medan perang dan mengasak begitu teruk sekali tentera Islam, orang-orang Islam menyeru, "Wahai Barra', bersumpahlah atas nama Tuhanmu". Lalu al-Barra' menyatakan, "Wahai Tuhanku, aku bersumpah agar Engkau anugerahkan kepada kami bahu-bahu mereka, kalahlah musuh di waktu itu". Ketika peperangan al-Qadisiyah meletus, al-Barra' menyatakan, "Aku bersumpah dengan nama-Mu ya Allah, sekiranya Engkau kurniakan kepada kami, bahu-bahu mereka, jadikanlah aku orang yang pertama sekali mati syahid. Setelah itu, orang-orang Islam berjaya menguasai kedudukan musuh dan mendapat al-Barra' adalah orang yang pertama terkorban syahid.

11. Khalid al-Walid pernah mengepung satu kota yang kukuh. Penduduk kota mengatakan, "Kami tidak akan menyerahkan kota ini melainkan tuan meminum racun". Lalu Khalid meminum racun dan racun itu tidak dapat mengapa-apakannya.

12. Sa'ad bin Abi Waqqas adalah seorang yang sangat mustajab doanya. Setiap kali beliau berdoa, Allah memperkenalkan doanya. Beliau adalah orang yang mengalahkan tentera Kisra dan membuka Iraq.

13. Ketika Umar bin al-Khattab RA menghantar satu angkatan tentera, beliau telah melantik seorang lelaki bernama Sariah sebagai amir. Ketika Umar bin al-Khattab menyampaikan pidato, tiba-tiba beliau bertempik di atas mimbar, "Wahai Sariyah! Berlindunglah di bukit itu! Wahai Sariah! Berlindunglah di bukit itu!". Setelah utusan pasukan tentera itu datang ke Madinah, Umar bertanya kepada beliau tentang keadaan medan pertempuran. Jawab utusan itu, "Kami bertembung dengan musuh dan mereka hampir-hampir mengalahkan kami. Tiba-tiba kami mendengar satu suara tempikan: Wahai Sariyah! Berlindunglah di bukit itu! Wahai Sariah! Berlinduglah di bukit itu! Lalu kami berlindung di sebalik bukit tersebut, lalu Allah mengalahkan mereka.

14. Ketika seorang wanita bernama al-Zabirah[2] diseksa kerana memeluk Islam, beliau tetap bertegas dengan Islam, sehingga matanya buta akibat seksaan tersebut. Orang-orang musyrik mengatakan mata wanita itu dibutakan oleh tuhan al-Latta dan al-Uzza. Jawab al-Zabirah, "Tidak! Demi Allah!". Lalu Allah mengembalikan semula penglihatannya sebagaimana sediakala.

15. Sa'id bin Zaid telah berdoa supaya Allah menimpa bala kepada Arwa binti al-Hakam, apabila Arwa berdusta kepada beliau. Hasil daripada doa tersebut, mata Arwa menjadi buta. Kandungan doa tersebut ialah: "Ya Allah! Ya Tuhanku! Sekiranya dia (Arwa) seorang pendusta, butakanlah matanya dan bunuhlah dia dibuminya sendiri". Selepas doa ini, mata Arwa menjadi buta dan beliau telah terhumban ke dalam sebuah lubang di dalam tanahnya sendiri dan meningga di situ juga.

16. Al-Ala' al-Hadrami merupakan petugas Rasulullah SAW di negara Bahrain. Beliau selalu menyebut di dalam doanya, "Wahai Tuhan Yang Maha Mengetahui! Wahai Tuhan Yang Lembut! Wahai Tuhan Yang Maha Tinggi! Wahai Tuhan Yang Maha agung!". Lalu doanya diperkenankan Allah. Beliau berdoa agar diberi air untuk minum dan berwuduk ketika orang-orang Islam ketiadaan air, lalu doanya diperkenankan Allah. Beliau berdoa kepada Allah ketika tentera Islam dihadang oleh laut dan mereka tidak dapat mengharungi laut itu. Tiba-tiba ke semua mereka berjalan di atas air dan pelana-pelana kuda mereka sedikitpun tidak basah terkena percikan air. Beliau berdoa kepada Allah agar musuh tidak dapat melihat jasadnya ketika beliau meninggal. Setelah beliau meninggal, mereka tidak menemui jasadnya di liang lahadnya.

17. Perkara sebegini juga berlaku kepada Abu Muslim al-Khaulani yang dicampakkan ke dalam api. Beliau dan tentera Islam yang bersama dengannya, berjalan di atas sungai Dajlah dan sungai itu mencampakkan kepadanya kayu. Kemudian Abu Muslim menoleh ke arah para sahabatnya, lalu berkata, "Adakah kamu kehilangan sesuatu barangan? Biar aku berdoa kepada Allah agar mengembalikan semula barang tersebut". Sesetengah sahabat menyatakan, "Saya kehilangan seekor unta". Jawab Abu Muslim, "Kalau begitu sila ikut aku". Lalu sahabatnya mengikut beliau dan mendapati unta tadi tersekat pada sesuatu, lalu mengambilnya semula.

Ketika al-Aswad al-Unsi mengaku menjadi nabi, beliau mencari Abu Muslim laluberkata, "Adakah kamu mengaku aku adalah Rasulullah?". Jawab Abu Muslim, "Aku tidak dengar apa yang kamu perkatakan tadi". Kata al-Aswad lagi, "Adakah kamu mengaku Muhammad itu Rasulullah?". Jawabnya, "Ya". Al-Aswad meminta para sahabatnya membawakan api dan kemudian mencampakkan Abu Muslim ke dalamnya. Tiba-tiba mereka mendapat Abu Muslim bangun di dalam api dan menunaikan solat. Api itu menjadi sejuk dan sejahtera kepadanya. Beliau pulang ke Madinah selepas kewafatan Rasulullah SAW. Umar telah mempersilakan beliau duduk di antaranya dengan Abu Bakar as-Siddiq RA, seraya (Umar) berkata, "Segala puji bagi Allah yang tidak mematikan aku, sehingga aku melihat dari kalangan umat Muhammad SAW, orang yang berjaya berada di dalam api tanpa sebarang mudarat sebagaimana yang berlaku kepada Nabi Ibrahim AS. Seorang hamba perempuan telah meletakkan racun di dalam makanan beliau, tetapi racun itu tidak dapat memudaratkannya. Ada seorang wanita telah mengkhianati suaminya, lalu beliau berdoa supaya wanita itu ditimpa bala, lalu wanita itu serta merta menjad buta. Kemudian wanita itu datang menemui dia dan menyatakan taubatnya, lalu dia berdoa kepada Allah dan Allah telah memulihkan kembali mata wanita itu".

18. Amir bin Abd Qais mengambil pemberian orang yang mengandungi wang sebanyak 2000 Dirham dan wang ini diletakkan di dalam poketnya. Setiap kali beliau bertemu dengan peminta sedekah di jalanan, beliau memberikannya wang tersebut tanpa mengira jumlah yang diberikannya. Kemudian, beliau tiba di rumahnya, mendapati bilangan dan berat wang itu masih tidak berubah. Suatu ketika beliau bertemu dengan satu kafilah yang dihadang oleh satu singa. Amir bin Abd Qais datang lalu menghadap singa itu dengan pakaiannya, kemudian meletakkan kakinya di atas tengkuk singa itu seraya berkata, "Sesungguhnya engkau adalah anjing-anjing Tuhan ar-Rahmandan aku pula malu untuk menunjukkan rasa takut selain daripada-Nya". Setelah itu kafilah dagangan tadi dapat bergerak dengan baik tanpa diganggu oleh singa itu lagi. Beliau berdoa kepada Allah agar dimudahkan bersuci pada musim sejuk, lalu dibawa kepada beliau air panas yang masih berasap. Beliau berdoa kepada Allah agar dijauhi daripada gangguan syaitan ketika sedang menunaikan solat, maka syaitan tidak dapat menggangunya ketika beliau sedang menunaikan solat.

19. Al-Hasan al-Basri ghaib dari pandangan al-Hajjaj, padahal dia masuk untuk menangkap Hasan al-Basri sebanyak enam kali. Beliau berdoa supaya musuh tidak dapat melihatnya dan ternyata mereka tidak dapat melihatnya. Beliau berdoa ke atas beberapa orang khawarij yang menyakiti beliau dan mereka rebah lalu mati.

20. Kuda kepunyaan Silah bin Asim mati ketika berada di dalam peperangan, lalu beliau berdoa, "Ya Allah! Ya Tuhanku! Janganlah engkau jadikan kepada sebarang makhluk satu anugerah, sebagaimana yang engkau berikan kepadaku". Lalu Allah SWT menghidupkan kembali kudanya. Apabila beliau pulang ke rumahnya, beliau berkata, "Wahai anakku, ambillah pelana kuda. Kuda itu tidak ada pelana". Lalu anaknya mengambil pelana kuda ayahnya dan tiba-tiba sahaja kudanya mati semula. Satu ketika beliau mengalami kelaparan di al-Ahwaz, lalu beliau berdoa kepada Allah agar Allah memberikan makanan kepadanya. Tiba-tiba jatuh di belakangnya satu karung kecil yang mengandungi buah tamar dari jenis Rautab yang dibaluti dengan pakaian sutera, lalu beliau memakan buah tamar itu dan pakaian itu pula kekal untuk satu tempoh masa yang panjang pada isterinya. Satu ketika beliau menunaikan solat di dalam satu kawasan hutan pada satu malam. Setelah beliau memberi salam, datang seekor singa. Beliau berkata kepadanya, "Carilah rezeki di tempat lain dan bukannya di sini". Lalu singa itu berlalu dari situ sambil mengaung.

21. Pada hari-hari al-Hurrah (hari-hari berlaku fitnah sesama umat Islam), Said bin Musayyab mendengar suara azan daripada kubur Rasulullah SAW, setiap kali tiba waktu solat. Pada masaitu masjid kosong dari jamaah dan tidak ada orang selain daripada beliau sahaja.

22. Seorang lelaki daripada al-Nakha' mempunyai seekor keldai yang mati di jalan raya. Para sahabatnya menyatakan, "Marilah kita agihkan barang-barang kamu untuk diletakkan di atas kenderaan kami". Jawabnya, "Tunggu sebentar". Lalu beliau mengambil wuduk, kemudian menunaikan solat dua rakaat dan seterusnya berdoa kepada Allah. Allah SWT menghidupkan kembali keldainya yang telah mati dan meletakkan barangannya semula di atas belakang keldai tersebut.

23. Ketika Uwais al-Qarni meninggal dunia, para sahabatnya mendapat di dalam pakaiannya ada kain kapan yang tidak pernah kelihatan sebelum itu. Mereka juga mendapati kubur yang mempunyai lahad di dalam batu, juga sudah pun digali untuknya, lalu mereka mengkebumikannya di dalam kubur tersebut setelah mengkafankan beliau dengan kain kapan yang ditemui di dalam pakaiannya.

24. Satu ketika Amru bin Uqbah bin Farqad menunaikan solat di bawah kepanasan cahaya matahari, tiba-tiba beliau dilindungi oleh sekelompok awan. Binatang buas menjaga beliau pada masa itu menjaga barang-barang para sahabatnya kerana sebelum itu beliau mensyaratkan untuk berkhidmat kepada sahabat-sahabatnya ketika berlaku peperangan.

25. Mutarrif bin Abdullah bin al-Syakir memasuki rumahnya, tiba-tiba bekas yang terdapat di dalam rumahnya bertasbih bersama dengan beliau. Beliau dan sahabatnya berjalan pada satu malam yang gelap, tiba-tiba satu cahaya menyinari kedua-dua perjalanan kedua orang sahabat tersebut.

26. Ketika al-Ahnaf bin Qais meninggal dunia, songkok dari seorang lelaki telah terjatuh ke dalam kuburnya, lalu beliau turun ke dalam kuburnya untuk mendapatkan kembali songkoknya, tiba-tiba beliau mendapati kubur al-Ahnaf telah diluaskan oleh Allah, saujana mata memandang.

27. Ibrahim bin al-Taimi tinggal selama sebulan dan dua bulan tidak makan apa-apa. Satu ketika, beliau keluar mencari makan untuk ahli keluarganya, tetapi tidak memperoleh apa-apa. Kemudian beliau lalu di hadpaan satu bekas berwarna merah, lalu mengambilnya dan membawa pulang. Apabila dibuka didapati ada gandum merah. Apabila gandum ini ditanam keluarlah tangkai yang mengandungi buah yang begitu lebat sekali dari umbi sampai kepada dahannya.

28. Atabah al-Ghulam berdoa kepada Allah meminta tiga perkara iaitu suara yang baik, aliran air mata yang banyak dan makanan yang tidak membebankan orang lain. Kerana itu setiap kali beliau membaca al-Quran, beliau menangis dan orang yang mendengar bacaan beliau juga menangis. Air matanya tidak henti-henti keluar. Beliau tinggal di dalam rumahnya dan memperoleh sumber makanan yang beliau sendiri tidak tahu dari mana datangnya.

29. Abd al-Wahid bin Zaid ditimpa penyakit Faluj (mati badan). Beliau berdoa kepada Allah agar Allah membolehkan anggota badannya bergerak ketika beliau mengambil wuduk. Apabila tiba waktu mengambil wuduk, anggota badan yang mati itu dapat digerakkan semula dan setelah selesai mengambil wuduk, anggota badang tersebut kembali kepada keadaan asalnya yang mati.

[1]Umm Aiman adalah wanita yang menjaga Nabi SAW. Dikatakan nama sebenarnya ialah Barakah. Beliau adalah ibu kepada Usamah bin Zaid. Meninggal di zaman pemerintahan Utsman RA. (Lihat Taqrib at-Tahzib, m/s 474)

[2]Beliau termasuk ke dalam orang yang diseksa kerana Allah. Abu Jahal menyeksa beliau dan kemudian beliau telah dibeli oleh Abu Bakar RA. Kisahnya terdapat dalam al-Isabah fi Tamyiz as-Sahabah, 4/311-312.

[Kutipan daripada Fiqh Tasawwuf, Syeikhul Islam Ibn Taimiyyah, bab Wali-Wali Allah Dan Wali-Wali Syaitan, Fasal XIV : Karamah-Karamah Para Wali].

Tambahan : Abu Nu'aim al-Asfahani telah menjelaskan tentang karamah para wali, kisah-kisah dan hal keadaan yang mereka alami di dalam karyanya yang masyhur Hilyah al-Awliya'. Sila rujuk kepada karya ini bagi sesiapa yang berhasrata untuk merujuknya. Karya ini telah diringkaskan oleh Abu al-Faraj Ibn al-Jauzi di dalam karyanya bertajuk Safwah al-Safwah. (nota kaki no. 92, Fiqh Tasawwuf, Syeikhul Islam Ibn Taimiyyah).

Antara Hak-Hak Terhadap Orang Lain

Oleh : Ibn Azhar

Jika engkau suka mencari keburukan seseorang yang menyampaikan suatu kebenaran agar terganggunya penyebaran kebenaran tersebut, maka sebenarnya engkau sedang mencipta sebuah peperangan antara air mukamu dan kebenaran. Oleh sebab fakta kebenaran itu mampu menjejaskan air mukamu, maka kau akan menghalang tersebarnya kebenaran itu agar air mukamu tidak jatuh di hadapan orang lain yang telah mengetahui kebenaran tersebut..

Jika engkau tak suka dirimu diganggu, maka usahlah engkau menggangggu. Jika engkau tidak diganggu oleh seseorang, maka usahlah engkau mengganggunya.

Jika engkau itu suka berbahagia dengan cara yang kau mahu tanpa engkau mengganggu orang lain, maka usahlah engkau menghalang orang lain berbahagia dengan cara yang dia mahu tanpa mengganggu orang lain.

Jika engkau suka agar orang lain membiarkan engkau bahagia dengan termenung, maka usahlah engkau ganggu hak orang lain untuk termenung.

Jika engkau selesa melayan kedukaanmu sebentar kerana putus cinta tanpa diganggu oleh sesiapa, maka usahlah engkau mengganggu orang yang sedang melayani kedukaannya kerana putus cinta.

Jika engkau itu suka agar diberi kebebasan untuk berpaling dari sebahagian orang kerana malu atau kerana ingin mengelak dari menjawab pertanyaan yang pasti akan dijawab dengan jawapan yang leceh, maka berikanlah kebebasan itu kepada orang lain.

Jika engkau suka agar orang lain tidak menghalang engkau menangis sendirian untuk kepuasan dirimu sendiri,maka usahlah engkau menghalang orang lain menangis sendirian untuk kepuasan dirinya sendiri.

Jika engkau tak suka orang lain mencari salahmu, maka usah kau mencari salah orang lain. Jika engkau tak suka orang lain mencari salahmu namun engkau pula sangat suka mencari kesalahan orang lain, maka engkau mempunyai hati yang sangat kotor dan busuk.

Antara Punca Tersingkirnya Daripada Keuntungan Yang Diharapkan

Oleh : Ibn Azhar

[Mereka yang mengharapkan keuntungan itu lah yang sebenarnya telah menghambat keuntungan tersebut dari dicapai oleh tangan mereka sendiri]

Jika engkau menginginkan pulangan keuntungan dari orang yang kau musuhi kelebihannya, lalu mengapa engkau mempertahankan air mukamu dengan engkau menjejaskan kelancaran dirinya untuk mempergunakan kelebihan tersebut tanpa diganggu emosi dan motivasinya?

Bukankah dengan engkau menghalang kelebihannya, memburuk-burukkan dirinya di hadapan manusia dan mematikan motivasinya untuk memanfaatkan kelebihan itu sebenarnya menjadi punca yang menghalang keuntungan yang engkau mahukan dari dirinya?

Logik dalam permasalahan ini sangat mudah! Jika engkau mengharapkan keuntungan dari seorang peniaga lalu engkau buruk-burukkan dirinya dihadapan pelanggannya sendiri, maka sebenarnya engkau lah yang menempah kerugian buat dirimu sendiri. Seolah engkau menunggu buah dari sepohon pokok yang kau racuni akarnya.

وَأَن لَّيْسَ لِلْإِنسَانِ إِلَّا مَا سَعَىٰ﴿٣٩

"Dan bahawa sesungguhnya tidak ada (balasan) bagi seseorang melainkan (balasan) apa yang di usahakannya" (Surah An Najm : 39)

Sunnatullah (hukum alam) di dalam surah An Najm ayat 39 ini terpakai untuk segala keadaan tidak kira di dunia mahu pun di akhirat.

Ini bermakna, punca terhalangnya segala keuntungan yang engkau harapkan sebenarnya adalah air mukamu sendiri! Ya, semakin engkau bertindak melayani hasad dan dendammu itu, semakin keuntungan itu pergi dari dirimu! Engkau boleh memuaskan rasa sakit di jantung hatimu namun bayarannya ialah kau terlepas dari keuntungan yang kau harapkan.

Adakah engkau sangka perbuatan mempertahankan air muka tanpa alasan yang benar itu tiada bayarannya? Engkau silap! Sebenarnya bayaran yang paling mahal ialah apabila engkau memilih untuk mempertahankan air mukamu tanpa alasan yang benar.

Engkau membenci kelebihan pada diri orang yang engkau harapkan keuntungan darinya namun engkau berusaha gigih untuk menghina orang tersebut dengan cara engkau memalingkan dirinya dari menggapai kejayaan dari kelebihannya itu. Kemudian engkau alihkan fokusnya ke arah pekerjaan lain yang kau rasa sesuai untuk menghina dirinya.

Engkau ingin memaksanya menjadi hina namun dalam masa yang sama kelebihannya itu cukup kuat untuk membenteng dirinya dari penghinaan. Bahkan engkau akan terpelanting dalam keadaan hina jika engkau cuba untuk merobek benteng kemuliaan tersebut.

Setiap kali engkau gagal merobeknya, engkau menjadi semakin marah dan benci. Lalu meranalah engkau pada batinmu dalam keadaan keuntungan yang kau harapkan pula semakin jauh untuk dicapai oleh tanganmu. Kau mengalami kerugian zahir dan batin sekaligus kerana perbuatanmu sendiri! Tidakkah engkau berakal?

وَالْعَصْرِ ﴿١﴾ إِنَّ الْإِنسَانَ لَفِي خُسْرٍ ﴿٢﴾ إِلَّا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالصَّبْرِ ﴿٣

"Demi masa, sesungguhnya manusia itu dalam kerugian. Kecuali orang yang beriman dan beramal soleh, dan berpesan-pesan kepada kebenaran, serta berpesan-pesan kepada kesabaran" (Surah Al Asr ayat 1-3)

Engkau menghalang dirinya dari berpesan-pesan kepada kebenaran dan akibatnya engkau pasti akan rugi! Engkau suka agar dirinya mempamerkan kemarahan dan amukan  lawan bagi berpesan-pesan kepada kesabaran) dan akibatnya engkau pasti akan rugi! Engkaulah yang menjemput kerugian buat dirimu sendiri dengan engkau menterbalikkan surah Al Asr!

Dan ingatlah tatkala engkau menganggap engkau akan berasa puas dengan memaksa takdir kehinaan itu tertimpa ke atas orang yang kau hasadkan namun adakah engkau dapat menjamin bahawa kemuliaan itu tidak sesekali ditakdirkan oleh Allah buat dirinya? Tidakkah engkau penat memaksa takdir apabila engkau sentiasa gagal melakukannya?

Adakah dengan engkau bersikap ego dari memotivasi dan menyokong kelebihan yang ada pada dirinya itu merupakan suatu tindakan yang tidak memerlukan bayaran? Engkau telah tersilap dalam reverse-psyco calculation! Sebenarnya perbuatan tersebut paling mahal bayarannya dan engkau akan menanggungnya disebabkan perbuatan yang menjadi pilihanmu sendiri.

Bukankah keuntungan yang kau harapkan itu akan lebih mudah kau perolehi dengan kau membantu dirinya dari segi rohani (psikologi) dan jasmani agar dia dapat memaksimumkan manfaat dari kelebihannya itu?

Kesimpulannya ialah engkau sebenarnya diberi dua jalan pilihan dalam perkara ini :

1) Pertama ialah engkau menundukkan air mukamu lalu kau bakal memperolehi keuntungan yang kau harapkan. Bahkan lebih dari apa yang kau harapkan!

2) Kedua ialah engkau mempertahankan air mukamu namun keuntungan yang kau harapkan akan semakin jauh untuk kau capai.

Teori ini tetap akan berfungsi dengan dua cara sahaja! Aku amat peka dalam mengesan corak teori tersebut dalam tindakanmu namun aku tidak menjelaskan teori tersebut kepadamu. Bukankah engkau tidak suka mendengar penjelasan dariku kerana menyangkakan aku ingin berbangga dengan penjelasan tersebut di hadapanmu? Lalu bagaimana aku hendak memberitahumu tentang suatu yang belum engkau ketahui?

Lantas apakah alasanmu untuk menyalahkan diriku jika aku lebih suka memilih untuk tidak berbual atau bergaul denganmu kerana engkau sendiri yang tidak suka aku berbicara kepadamu jika hal itu belum engkau ketahui?

Adakah engkau hanya mengharap aku berbicara denganmu tentang apa yang engkau telah ketahui dan persetujui sahaja? Lalu untuk apa aku berbual denganmu? Adakah hanya untuk mengulangi semula ucapanmu itu di bibirku untuk aku berbicara semula denganmu ? Jika begitu, mengapa engkau tidak bercakap seorang diri sahaja? Tidakkah engkau berakal?

Give These 4 Things to Others to Be Happier

It's no secret that doing good makes others happy -- but did you know it can make you happy as well?

According to a study conducted by psychologists at the University of Louisville in Kentucky, people participating in meaningful activities were happier and felt that their lives had more purpose than people who only engaged in pleasure-seeking behaviors. The researchers also found that respondents' happiness came after they did something good for another person.

Giving doesn't just feel good, it's also good for our health, according to two different studies -- one led by Doug Oman at the University of California in Berkeley, and the other by Stephanie Brown of the University of Michigan. These studies showed that elderly couples and individuals who provided help to neighbors and friends or volunteered for at least two organizations had a significantly lower risk of dying over the course of five years.

Try giving these four things to others to embark on your journey to a happier and healthier lifestyle.

1. Your Time

With a busy life, it can be hard to find any time to give away. However, volunteering your time has enormous benefits, including making new friends and connections, learning new skills and even advancing your career.

Dr. Suzanne Richards and her team at the University of Exeter published a paper in 2013 that reviewed 20 years of studies about the link between health and volunteering. According to the paper, volunteering correlates with lower instances of depression and reduces the risk of dying by 22 percent.

Let it be known, however, that volunteering offers the most benefits to people who are truly in it to help other people. Choose an organization that's meaningful to you and put your heart into it.

2. Your Attention

Most of us think we're good listeners, but according to psychologist Paul Donoghue, co-author of Are You Really Listening? Keys to Successful Communication, most people are aware that others don't listen as well as they could. In addition, they're not fully aware that they themselves aren't listening.

One of the simplest and most powerful things you can do for another person is to listen to them. Giving someone your attention shows that you respect them and can also improve the quality of your relationship with that person.

When practicing mindfulness meditation, you focus on what you experience in the moment and let your thoughts and emotions pass through without judgment. Did you know that giving someone your undivided attention helps you also? When done well, active listening strengthens your focus -- which is a major component of good meditation.

3. Your Compassion

The psychological definition of compassion is the ability to understand another person's emotional state. Compassion differs from empathy in that those who experience compassion not only put themselves in another person's shoes, but also want to alleviate that person's suffering.

Neuroscientist Jordan Grafman from the National Institutes of Health conducted a brain-imaging study. The study showed that the brain's pleasure centers are equally active when we give money to charity as when we receive money ourselves.

Giving another person your compassion is a little less concrete than giving something physical, but it's not particularly difficult, and the benefits are huge.

Consider this Buddhist story that compares lunch in heaven to lunch in hell. Both places have long dining tables and endless delicious food -- but the forks are too long for one person to eat with. Those in hell sit with never-ending hunger and frustration because they cannot figure out how to partake in the banquet. However, those in heaven use the long forks to feed each other, allowing everyone to enjoy the delicious food.

Start by remembering that others are on their own path just as you are on yours. They, too, sometimes feel scared and insecure and need support.

4. Your Money

According to an experiment by Michael Norton of Harvard Business School, those who spend money on other people are significantly happier than those who spend the same quantity of money on themselves. Participants even predicted that spending money on themselves would improve their own pleasure -- but they were proven wrong.

Currently, four-fifths of companies that already give charitable donations to international organizations plan to either sustain or increase their budget size. These organizations range drastically in size and in the services they offer, but all of them -- especially nongovernment organizations -- rely heavily on donors to function.

Whether or not you can offer other gifts, donating funds helps make real change happen for disenfranchised people all over the world. It represents time spent, compassion and careful attention to the needs of others.

How to Be Happy Alone – 6 Tips to Use Today

How to Be Happy Alone - 6 Tips to Use Today

Rarely do we associate loneliness with happiness, but is it possible to be alone and happy?

Loneliness and, in some instances, seclusion are things that millions of people grapple with daily. Loneliness can be imposed by circumstances such as the death of loved ones, family moving away, work obligations or social anxiety. Loneliness can also be self-imposed in situations where people withdraw from society into a secluded and “atomized” existence if they feel they cannot find “their place” in the world. Some people are also loners by nature and prefer living in an environment where they have all the physical and emotional space that they need.

Society often regards lonely people as remarkably unhappy and even awkward. We are wired to socialize and interact and that is why lonely situations can be viewed with a great deal of suspicion. But loneliness can also be disastrous on the individuals who find themselves in an enforced loneliness where outside circumstances beyond their control are the main causes of their loneliness.

In such situations, it is easy to lose your sense of proportion. For example, you might lose your sense of organization. Your thoughts will wander off and you are unlikely to get any productive work accomplished. In some cases, loneliness can even contribute to suicide when lonely people feel that their lives are not worth living if they are unable to build the social bonds that will make their lives meaningful.

Is it possible to be alone and happy? Here are some important tips on how to be happy alone:

Take Good Care of Your Home

It is very easy to neglect your home when you are not around other people. Before long, you might have dishes piling up, dirty cups all over the place, a mountains of dirty clothes.

Even when people are not constantly walking into your home, it is in your best interest to keep your living place clean, tidy and well organized. A clean home equals a clean mind. When your mind is disorganized and lacks focus, it will be difficult for you to get anything worthwhile done.

When your home is clean, well-organized and tidy, you will feel happy whenever you walk in and all you will wish for is to spend more time inside and savor the moments.
Create Something

Being alone without any distractions provides you with a great opportunity to bring forth your inner creativity to build something that you truly value. If you have the writing bug, you could blog, write a novel or an e-Book on a topic that you love. If you love painting, you could immerse yourself deep in the comfort and calmness of solitude and let those creative powers burst through

Solitude is particularly a fertile ground for the creative minds who love to work with intense focus and without any distractions. Isolation can offer you much inspiration to get something done and also boosts your productivity immensely. If you need something done that will require intense mental focus, then you better do it in an atmosphere of solitude.

Treat Yourself to a Great Date

Who says people who live alone do not date or have some fun? Do not let your life slip into a monotonous routine. Find ways to break your routine by coming up with more creative ways to inject some fun. A date, even if it’s with yourself, can really energize you and inject excitement into your life.

Go out often and have some coffee. Dance, drink and be around other people. You can also go out on picnics, outings and other outdoor activities. If you work a lot indoors, consider shifting your work to more public places occasionally. The possibilities to form new networks, relationships or simply be happy around people are endless.

Cut Down on Mindless Consumption

When you are alone or lonely, it is easy to drift quickly into mindless consumption of things such asbooze, the latest comedy series, Facebook or food. You do not have to keep track of every little piece of news that happens in the world. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t spend your time consuming meaningful media. Try watching documentaries, news commentaries or things that make you think.

Whatever you consume when you are alone, it is important to do it in moderation. If you are beginning to gain an obsession with something that adds zero value to your life such as social networks or sports scores, it is important to cut down so as to find new productive pursuits.

Eliminate the Noisy Thoughts

Your thoughts can be your best friend or your number one enemy when you are alone. It is therefore important to work extra time in order to eradicate those negative thoughts or negative energy that will drag you down.

One ugly aspect of negative thinking is that once a single negative thought takes hold of your mind, it spirals out of control to create the mental monsters that can simply shatter your life. When you are alone, you will also be highly susceptible to negativity. You, therefore, need to develop safeguards that will help you effectively manage your negative thinking and shift your mental attitude in a more positive diraction.

There are ways, both physical and mental, in which you can interrupt the negative train of thoughts and insert some positivity into the moment. For example, you can light some incense, take a slow nice hot bath, play some soothing music, do yoga, meditate or even get yourself some rest.

Create Beauty Out of the Ordinary

There is so much beauty in the world and you need to spot it in order to positively appreciate life. If you are alone, take some walks in nature, visit a lake or some naturally beautiful place – they have a profoundly restorative effect on our mental state. Visit a forest or some beautiful vista that inspires you. Appreciate the true magnificence of the world and you will begin developing a more positive attitude towards life.

6 Traits Of People Who Live Peacul Live (They Might Surprise You)

Young woman laying on dry leaves and enjoying life

1. Let Go Of The Ego And Just Be Yourself

“Take time to be an impartial observer of life particularly when an ending is causing despair.” Lao Tzu

We don’t need to be anything or anyone. We need to impress no one. As a society we have become concerned with having the latest fashions, how we look and impressing others. What for? Who cares? We are trying to fulfil other people’s expectations of us. That doesn’t really make any sense. It just drives us to distraction, always trying to prove ourselves to others. Even when we succeed at creating the right look, social status, image or whatever it is we are trying to achieve, most people don’t notice. So why bother? Our preoccupation with our exterior persona has diverted us from our true self. Once we have let go of our ego state we feel a freedom a freedom that allows us to truly experience life to its fullest without the weight of expectation holding us back.

2. Learn From Masters

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” Albert Einstein

By studying great teachers and mentors we can develop wisdom from what others are willing to share. If you seek to learn, grow and become wise then you need to associate with wise and knowledgeable people. If you wish to learn any craft or art then a good place to start is to watch what others are doing. Modelling is the process of observing parts of our own and other people’s behaviour in order to reproduce it and improve our functioning and outcomes. We can reduce the amount of time it takes to learn a new trade, skill or anything you wish to replicate. The great thing about modelling is it is all about leverage. You gain access to someone else’s knowledge base and experience that may have taken them a lifetime to compile, develop and learn. That’s why books, reading and watching educational programs can be great teachers. These may be no substitute for experience, however we can be valuable assets to help speed up the learning process. A single book may contain twenty or thirty years of condensed wisdom, yet you may be able to read the book in two or three days. That’s what I am talking about, leverage. If you have taken on board the information contained in the book then you have effectively gained new ideas, skills, wisdom and knowledge in a fraction of the time. Thirst for knowledge enhances one’s capability and brings forth new ideas, reasoning and creativity. So seek out great teachers and masters and study what they have learned and the wisdom they share. Be prepared to explore the mysteries of the universe and set yourself free.

3. Bring Awareness To Your Life

“The unaware life is not worth living.” -Socrates

Today there are growing trends toward living a holistic, sustainable lifestyle with a focus on quality of life, not quantity. We are moving into a period where we will see an ever increasing focus on personal development and contribution to society. People have been living like this for many decades, yet for the majority, it continues to be a challenge to balance work with lifestyle. The meaning of life is elusive, with the wealth of the 21st century providing humanity with many distractions. Technological advancements provide entertainment and lifestyle opportunities that only decades before did not exist. Practice being in the moment and experiencing the sensations, feelings and emotions every moment has to offer. Our potential is limitless, we just have to be aware that our life is a function of our habits and manage these accordingly.

4. Realize That We All Experience Conditioning Of Some Kind

“The only source of knowledge is experience” Albert Einstein

Be aware of how we are influenced by various communications, past experiences, situations and emotions. Modern society and many of the individuals within it have lent themselves to being conditioned. Life and its great mysteries can be glossed over. Many of us end up confused, isolated and questioning. Engaged in trivial activities or hedonistic pursuits we try to distract ourselves from the deeper meaning of life. We are conditioned to see things as right or wrong, black or white, up or down. The teachings of the spiritual masters tell us that everything is perfect. Let’s enjoy the moment, life and everything we encounter. Look for the serenity, beauty and diversity in everything we do, see and experience. It is like the Zen story where the man walks into the butcher and says “I want the best meat you have”. The butcher replies: “It is all the best”. Do you constantly seek the best this or that or are you content with what you have? Why do we want to compete, be stronger, faster, more successful or whatever it may be? Who told us this was right? Once we step back and see how our conditioned states impact our lives we can start to let go, we can then move toward a place that is free, free from prejudice, hatred and violence toward a place of love, compassion and understanding.

5. Understand You Create Your Own Experiences
“Experience is not what happens to a man. It is what a man does with what happens to him.” Aldous Leonard Huxley

Allowing ourselves to observe experiences allows us to make more informed and educated decisions. Observation is an important element in the development of our evolution. Much of today’s society revolves around ‘doing’ rather than ‘being’ and observing. Take notice of your experiences. Too often we overlook, turn away, and do not learn from our experiences. Rarely do we take a long hard look at our experiences and learn from them. We walk right back into the same old patterns and bad habits. Only by observing as the great masters do, can we learn and understand that our experiences are neither good nor bad. It is how we perceive them and what we learn from these experiences that make a difference. We must ask ourselves, what did I learn from that experience and what can I take away from it? Why did this happen to me? What impact did my actions have on others and the environment? The choices we make and how we interpret interactions creates our experience of life. It is the choices we make that determine what kind of life we live. Do we want to live a life of misery or happiness? Our thoughts control how we react to others and our environment. By understanding we are in charge, we control our destiny can we move from a world of separation to one of connectedness, love and compassion.

6. How Do You Live Your Life – Through Fear Or Love?

“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” Buddha

To have a happy life is to live with love and release fear. Human beings are primarily motivated by two underlying emotions, love and fear. These two extremes influence every aspect of our lives. Fear is situated at one end of the spectrum while love is at the other end. On an economic and societal scale we can see that entire industries are dedicated to and thrive on fear. Great masters understand that one who lives life through love can conquer all. Masters know that they have no need for approval, they are not attached to external forces or things, they understand that happiness, compassion and love must be manifested within.