Why Our Friend's Number Getting Diminished Each Year Of Our Life?

Why is this happening?

It’s because in the beginning, we lack of understanding of ourselves; who do we want to be, what kind of personality should we be, who is the person that could help our future and our life’s security and reassurance and anything else regarding to explore of self understanding, so we make so much friends as possible in order to learn, ascertain, discern and determine. We may have our standard to regulate our friend circle and whom are we supposed to friend with, but sometimes there may some overlooked loophole to have an ideal friend our ours. That’s why we go far beyond to discover. We learn ourselves through our friends.

When we have an enough understanding of ourselves and a fitly grasp of the ideal friends, we start to filtrate friends who are insufficient to fullfill our satisfaction, reassurance and happiness, being an obstacle to gain what we want and being a potential threat to our life’s security. Eventually, our friend’s circle going smaller, but stable and one who doesn’t suit with our prospect will be purged, kept off or just being a secondary. We’re prioritizing the quality for more and turning into less for quantitiy. Keeping too much is just a heavy burden, freakingly exausting us and intriguingly obligate us to spend more times and energies. Especially when we realize that kind of friends weren’t a fair match for our life’s dimension, it drive us to withdraw and pull away or deprioritize to avoid messed up and disorder.

Remember what our prophet (peace be upon him) said? :

الْمَرْءُ عَلَى دِينِ خَلِيلِهِ، فَلْيَنْظُرْ أَحَدُكُمْ مَنْ يُخَالِط

“One is at his soul mate’s religion. Shalt each of you look through whom do he keep with”. (Musnad Ahmad)

Our personalities are reflection of friends of ours. We’re becoming like the person we cling to. That’s why if you want to change yourself, change your friend’s circle too. You can’t keep going on the path you take if friend’s circle remains the same as it were. They could be your inspiration and your disappointment. They could be your motivation and they could be your hurdle.

So, choose your friend wisely. Have a specific apprehension of ideal friends whom you want to have that match your own genuine personalities, then it’s much more simpler to guide you. If you’re having a misfortune to face some toxic friend and going through hardship in friendship, remember that our experience is our lesson and our teacher. You may unlucky for this day, but in future, i hope you guys find a friend that will be your salvation and contentment in your life.

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