Recently i had an argument (friendly discussion, not nemesis quarrel) with the person who stand on his opinion: “Why we need a doujin, while there’s so much book or writing out there critically explicate the philosophical view and profound standpoint towards romance relationship? The love-making activity is supposed to more emotional warmth of chemistry than the pleasure alone”.

Of course this kind of opinion based on the disgrace view towards the doujin over a pornographic reading. However, i differ this kind of discern, not just his, but as well as public (or we rather to say normie)’s view or perhaps my mutual-interest friends around. In the intrinsic value, I do not perceive doujin as something like that. But considering the extrinsic value which if we brought this thing to the public or normies territory or mainstream, of course it goes without saying that there will be a disdain and unpleasant reaction.

Nonetheless, for me, it does not affect my personal (or maybe some people who have the same) view that it’s not as what public perceive. It just a subculture that accepted in several group of people. And i respect their constrating view towards it. I understand the cicumstances

Anyway, let me rewrite and sort out my point in more clear-cut to justify my opinion.

Note: If you’re the person who insistly determined that the doujin is an absolute taint and wicked reading material in all condition which you can’t tolerate more, there’s no need to read further. I won’t cover that part in this article. So, it’s pointless to read more.

Why we “need” (i don’t know any other word that would phrase more better, because doujin isn’t something we strongly desperate for, but rather it’s just more on we entertain ourselves) the doujin anyway? It’s the same thing as we “need” a movie, drama shows on the TV or sort of it. Wait? Isn’t enough for we just to attend more romantical show and try to get the understanding the meaning of true love through it?

Let me tell you, the romance relationship isn’t just ending with kissing. To deepening the love relationship, chemistry bond will takes place by spending lovely time together in bed at night.

Note: If you’re somebody who thinks copulation or sex is just (insignificant) incidental part in romance relationship, there’s no need to read further. This afterwards explanation isn’t accomodate for you and i don’t want to argue this matter in this article. So, there is no point to keep reading.

Oh ya, i should tell you. The person who have contrast view on me because of my article “Why I Love Read Doujin”[1]. That article is more encompassing more on my personal view towards it and it is covering significantly on vanilla type. And this article also encompassing personnal perspective and may be covering the vanilla part too but it may or you can relate to other.

Even so, before i publish that article, i have been around with hunderds of journal, writing and article regarding miscellaneous sexual issue on various portal such as Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Psychology Today, Science of Us (it used to be standing alone website, now it’s part of The Cuts’ column), The Guardians and other news portal which have a column for journalist to write out their personal opinion for more than 4 years. Thus, i didin’t write the post in a raw-cooked insight or just my sentimental reasoning. My article is totally on the consciously aware of some knowledge.

What did i read? Of course, it’s not just a biological stuff that you learn on the school, but i also read and look through wider scope of sexual discussion such as voicing up social issue; feminsim, rape, abuse, history, sociology, legal and movement, uncover the psychology difference between men and women, how to approach the conflict in sexual needs and tips to get pleasurement and excitement in the sexual intercourse.

Especially on Men’s Health or Women’s Health, i would somewhat to call them as a “pornographic” “academic” reading material portal. I learned so much the guide and the tips to create and having joyful moment with the partner. I learned how to be wild in dirty talk which could turn on the excitement, sex position which could hit the climax and so much more. Notwithstanding, what’s still lack? It’s the ideal frame of the practicality.

Now this is where the doujin’s role is. It’s giving a projection of how we could apply it to the reality with a fiction story. Just like The Jokers giving a projection on how nihilist leftist’s notion will prevail in the society. Some movie represents the thought, philosophy or personal view of author or some sort of it to people so that they’ll triggered to think and open discussion or get a grasp to better apprehension and have a ideal frame on the perspective.

What’s the Men’s Health or Woman’s Health don’t (or somehow can’t) cover? It’s the practicality’s projection. How are we supposed to have more plain ideal view on enjoying sex? Of course the doujin (or perhaps other pornographic material, but i think doujin is quite better) will help you out. The doujin will show how to tease the couple, fool around playfully, express the good excitement feels in the intercourse and create an unexpected “plot twist” which could create an amusement. So now, you know how the doujin could provide a little understanding, hence guiding to ideal outlook to enliving and cherishing the lovely moment.

For me, sex isn’t something try and error to attain the pleasurement and excitement. One need to have a ideal view of enjoying sex and to-do-list menu. We may have a sex life for 40 years with our partner. So, are we gonna stay in the same way for that long? The doujin at least supplying the stock for us to apply more creative way to cheering our time with partner. We need to keep learning to understand our partner’s psychology and emotional need or support, as well as the game that couple gonna play in the making-love time. How can we be more creative up till to create a fun actiivity together when we ignorant to ideal outlook of entertaining sex and lack of preparation?

How about romance academic book? Or romance drama? Is it being insufficient? Alright. Let me clear this up. Romance story or book is focusing on more on love, while doujin is focusing more lust. Love and lust is concurrently exist in the romantic relationship. If you balance both of them, it will do no commotion. Yeah, you just can’t understand the overall thing about nihilist leftist by simply watching The Jokers. You have to read the related book that go into the topic. Then, that’s the case of this matter.

Maybe some people will argue “there is some gruesome and disgusting thing in the doujin which is going too far beyond romantic-related”. Well yeah, i dont deny that. After all, is it what the comic’s artist think about the sexual desire and course of their lust. However, it’s not more than for a fun only. It’s just like the cartoons for kids that showing violent and brutal act such as smashing, stabbing and plunge from the hgih place. Is it good thing for kids to learn and make it real? Of course not. It’s a merely for fun only. So, it’s similar for the doujin. Yet, if you wanna to put into reality in your intercourse, make sure have a discussion and mutual understanding first before you’re going to work it out.

It kinda remind me the quotes: “Kissing and cuddling makes me feel loved. Intense, naughty and rough sex makes me feel wanted”. Yeah. Sometimes the transendence of vanilla type of sex spice up the enjoyment in the intercourse. Just like the violence in Tom and Jerry make the shows more fun and entertaining.

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